Leadership Lessons from 25 Years of Marriage: Finding Common Ground

After two weeks of relaxing self-reflection on a sun lounger, having renewed my marriage vows on a stunning beach for our 25th Wedding Anniversary, I realised there are some parallels between marriage (or any long-term relationship) and leadership.

Here are the top 5 similarities that I came up with on that sun lounger:

Nurturing Relationships:

– A successful marriage requires consistent effort, communication, and nurturing.  Similarly, effective leadership thrives on building and fostering relationships with team members.
– Just as we invest time and energy into our personal relationships, as leaders, we must invest in understanding and supporting our teams, cultivating an environment where trust and collaboration can thrive.

Adaptability and Flexibility:

– Marriage/long-term relationships teach us the importance of adaptability and flexibility as we grow and learn, over the years, to navigate through challenges, compromise, and adjust to the evolving dynamics of our relationship.
– In leadership, having the growth mindset to adapt to changing circumstances, embrace new ideas, and be flexible in our leadership style is vital for guiding our teams through uncertainty and driving innovation.

Resilience and Perseverance:

– Marriages, like any long-term relationship, encounter their fair share of ups and downs and it is during the challenging times that resilience and perseverance shine through.
– As leaders, we must demonstrate a similar level of resilience, guiding our teams through adversity, and instilling a sense of determination and perseverance to overcome obstacles and reach our collective goals.

Balancing Work and Personal Life:

– A successful marriage requires finding a balance between work and personal life, ensuring that both receive the attention they deserve.
– Similarly, effective leadership entails recognising the importance of work-life integration for ourselves and our team members, promoting a healthy work environment that supports personal well-being.

Celebrating Milestones:

– Reaching the 25-year mark in a marriage is a significant milestone worthy of celebration.
– In leadership, it is equally important to recognize and celebrate achievements, both big and small, within our teams. Taking the time to acknowledge milestones and accomplishments not only boosts morale, but also fosters a culture of appreciation and motivates individuals to continue striving for excellence.

What other similarities would you add?

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Anna Hiett

Anna spent 10 years as the Global Head of Sales Training at Finastra, a large FinTech. Winning multiple awards for her world-class training programmes, Anna now supports busy Sales and Enablement leaders and managers to reach new heights of performance and productivity, to deliver value to their organisations. Anna is the part-time Leadership Executive Coach at Finastra and also has a thriving consulting and coaching private practice.

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I’m an ICF certified executive coach and award-winning Sales Training professional, with a passion for sales methodology & process and time & attention management.

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